CONTROLLED CHOICES

Big and small decisions are thrust upon us each day of our lives, but no matter how small the decisions are both choices can remind us of our freedom to be able to choose what is right for us. We are shown by many on how we should think and how we should do even the most trivial of things. No matter the size of the choice we have their is always a voice trying to steer us in a direction to what may have worked for them. This action is pushed to us when we're not following the rules that people put on themselves when making decisions, believing that our life would benefit if we followed their lifestyle choices. Our choices define who we are and those who try to take that away from us have trouble accepting that we know what we want and we also know who we are. If we followed the examples that are forced upon us we would be a replica of the adviser and lose our own identity forcing us to create ideals based on somebodies else's priorities.

ON THE BACK FOOT

People refuse to take responsibility to something they may have shared a role in. They would rather direct your attention to how someone else was the major lead in the play. Without manning up they will never accept that they also added to the problem, this type of thinking puts their mind in a defence mode. Hardly anything heard is taken in and the little that is heard has a barrage of overpowering comebacks waiting to be launched at anyone challenging their sincerity. This shows us that they're mind isn't at peace with their beliefs because they're not relaxed and seem to be prepared for a war even though there is no fight. When you are highly strung and wound up you tend to neglect the facts because your rational mind is ignored which leads your thoughts to confusion. Distracted by the way you feel it is hard to hide your true state of mind when you are feeling angry, because your anger doesn't reflect well if you are trying to connect with people. Most people prefer the company of someone who is at peace with themselves which shows others that they are comfortable in their own skin and also someone who isn't afraid to show a high level of compassion for those that are misfortunate than they are. People search for qualities in their friends that they themselves deem worthy qualities to possess . Without the acknowledgement that they may too be at fault because of their actions then they too will never learn from their mistakes which will lead them to repeating their wrongs. Our tolerance threshold for bad choices can only take so much before the truth comes out and we have a mental breakdown because life hasn't turned out the way we have planned. The truth may hurt but the lies we tell ourselves isn't going to keep us in good company when the realisation hits us that we have been trying to dodge the truth . Our friends and family wont cope with the frustrations our lies may have caused, our only hope is that they will forgive our wrongs. How can anyone forgive someone who refuses to accept responsibility of their part in the lies they may have said ? because you cant forgive someone who shows no remorse.

BAD LISTENER

Most of us have experienced people who respond to quickly to a question to give the right answer. This action can sometimes show an over eagerness to prove their worth and their need to satisfy those they are trying to communicate with. Answering a question that wasn't even asked highlights their inability to listen to the end of the question, almost as if they are on a game show wanting to hurry it all up to get to the winning prize. This usually results with their prediction of the question being far from the intended question. The question transforms to an alternate question which is swayed by what the bad listener believed was asked of them. The listeners state of mind and their own view of  how they are perceived can vary as much as people with optimistic to pessimistic views can. We need to answer each question without the distractions of previous encounters if we are to answer truthfully. Emotions can sway where logic stands firm. That is why you can never argue with logic.