GLUTTON FOR PUNISHMENT

It is sad that some people need to be treated badly for them to treat others with respect. Those who need constant reminding not to take peoples generosity for granted easily forget that those who treat them with respect isn't a sign of weakness but a show of strength. This type of behaviour reinforces the saying treat them mean to keep them keen. But not all those who are victims of neglect desire the reminder that their decision to be friendly should come at a cost of losing their integrity. If we don't strive to be good to one another than all that is left is the caveman mentality "ME FIRST" without any regard to anyone else's well being because their only truth is what am I getting out of this. Motives that only suit one person promotes dictatorship this highlights the individuals personality in the first three letters in dictatorship and most people would rather surround themselves with someone who is not a dic. How civil is a civilisation that values only the selfish minded this can never represent our society. That's why our values should focus on what we can do to make others happy and not what do i get out of it.

MOVE WITH THE TIMES

Technology needs to be embraced if you expect to stay in contact with those who choose to use it as their way of socialising. In our fast paced lives we do less connecting with people face to face and more with other forms of media. The evolution of technology forces people to rethink the way they have being interacting and move with the times. Life is ever changing those who refuse to adapt get left behind. This should be enough to steer peoples opinon to the majority, if they expect to fit in and not lose touch with those who are outside of their reach. People dont want to try and understand where we are headed as a society because all they can think about is where they are now. It is up to the individual to pre visualise where they want to be and set path to play which will lead them to reaching their long term goals. Without a plan of what you'd like to achieve in your life you are left with the disappontment that hits you at the point where you cant control the affect that you desire. Leaving you with the realisation that your opportunities have now past you by.

DAY OFF

Your weekend is a reminder that their is more to life than going to work. It is a little taste of what your life could be like if you didn't have the obligation that comes when you take on the responsibilities of an adult. Work can take up ten hrs of your waking life, from the time you get ready till the time you spend at work, is time away from your family life. The time we spend at work and thinking about work can sometimes camouflage the true meaning of why we go to work, for most it's a means to an end to others its a way of life, but the harsh reality to those who rely on work as a hobby is that with age not all jobs are still easy to do. That is why you retire from your working life eventually but you should never retire from your family life. Our bread and butter mentality that strives us to work harder so that we have more money for ourselves and our family's gets taken over by the lack of time left to spend with our loved ones, leaving us with more money but no quality time with the ones we most care about. As we get older our reason for slowing down is reinforced by our lack of stamina due to our deteriorating state of our health, this should be enough to remind us to enjoy our leisure time while we still have a adventurous spirit.

GUILTY AS CHARGED

Guilt is one of the most powerful motivators that influence how people  come to terms with their choices. Once the realisation hits them that their own needs took precedent before anyone Else's with no regard on how it may cause a negative affect, will they then start to feel guilt. We may try and mend the harm our errors have caused, but the lack of taking ownership at the right time doesn't help those we have offended because your actions may have already caused irreversible harm to your own integrity, your selfish actions forces you to repeat your most common mistakes and create a norm that is now expected of you. When your motives have been realised, it's enough to tarnish any relationship you may have because your guilt might not be enough to show  the intensity of your remorse. So come clean from the beginning  and remember if you feel guilty for something you may have done hiding from others is a lot easier than hiding from yourself, for that if you feel bad then you must have done bad. Fooling yourself that you only had good intentions is admitting to yourself that your not comfortable with the lies you say. So accept yourself , even if that acceptance highlights that you are more selfish than you thought you were. At least you would go sleep at night without questioning your true identity.

TO HAVE BUT NOT TO SPEND

Saving money is our personal promise to ourselves that we are trying to reach  a financial goal that will come with the reward of a purchase in the near future. Long term and short term goals are influenced by our greater desire to take ownership of a specific item ,but the commitment to saving money can sometimes tire when you've had a tight guard on spending any money. We all need to invest  some of our well earned money in our short term goals that will help ensure our own happines. If saving is our only goal, what joy can come with having the means to treat yourself but refraining from rewarding yourself. Accumulating a source of funds that are prepared for the rainy day but not used because of the fears of decreasing our funds is defeating the purpose of building a safety net that we never use. Money is only useful if you use it to get you what you want, but if your only pupose for money is to feel safe that you have a lot of it. Then you need to remember that life is short and you cant take your money with you. So work smarter and figure out what you want in life quicker and spend the money you've saved before someone else does.

CONTROLLED CHOICES

Big and small decisions are thrust upon us each day of our lives, but no matter how small the decisions are both choices can remind us of our freedom to be able to choose what is right for us. We are shown by many on how we should think and how we should do even the most trivial of things. No matter the size of the choice we have their is always a voice trying to steer us in a direction to what may have worked for them. This action is pushed to us when we're not following the rules that people put on themselves when making decisions, believing that our life would benefit if we followed their lifestyle choices. Our choices define who we are and those who try to take that away from us have trouble accepting that we know what we want and we also know who we are. If we followed the examples that are forced upon us we would be a replica of the adviser and lose our own identity forcing us to create ideals based on somebodies else's priorities.

ON THE BACK FOOT

People refuse to take responsibility to something they may have shared a role in. They would rather direct your attention to how someone else was the major lead in the play. Without manning up they will never accept that they also added to the problem, this type of thinking puts their mind in a defence mode. Hardly anything heard is taken in and the little that is heard has a barrage of overpowering comebacks waiting to be launched at anyone challenging their sincerity. This shows us that they're mind isn't at peace with their beliefs because they're not relaxed and seem to be prepared for a war even though there is no fight. When you are highly strung and wound up you tend to neglect the facts because your rational mind is ignored which leads your thoughts to confusion. Distracted by the way you feel it is hard to hide your true state of mind when you are feeling angry, because your anger doesn't reflect well if you are trying to connect with people. Most people prefer the company of someone who is at peace with themselves which shows others that they are comfortable in their own skin and also someone who isn't afraid to show a high level of compassion for those that are misfortunate than they are. People search for qualities in their friends that they themselves deem worthy qualities to possess . Without the acknowledgement that they may too be at fault because of their actions then they too will never learn from their mistakes which will lead them to repeating their wrongs. Our tolerance threshold for bad choices can only take so much before the truth comes out and we have a mental breakdown because life hasn't turned out the way we have planned. The truth may hurt but the lies we tell ourselves isn't going to keep us in good company when the realisation hits us that we have been trying to dodge the truth . Our friends and family wont cope with the frustrations our lies may have caused, our only hope is that they will forgive our wrongs. How can anyone forgive someone who refuses to accept responsibility of their part in the lies they may have said ? because you cant forgive someone who shows no remorse.