DONT TAKE IT PERSONAL

When business is just business their leaves no room for compassion, without compassion you can lose a lot of business. Our ability to connect and relate to each other heightens our human touch which enables us to work out what people desire.Without knowing what people's wants are we aren't able to distinguish who our market is and how to take an advantage buisness perspective. People's needs must be sated if we expect them to give us their best. Loyalty comes when respect is shown thats why most people will do more for someone who is friendly and kind than for a those who are arrogant and rude. Time shared with others, the reward should always out weigh the punishment otherwise what is the point. Business is about people and peolpe want to be happy. So treat people the way you want to be treated and you will be surprised how much happier and successful you become.

INEVITABLE PATTERNS

Their is a natural order in life that defines our reality. This is ignored because many of us have little time to focus and analyse the events that take place in our busy lifestyles. Allowing yourself to spare some free time to look deep under the surface, helps reconnect you to the common ground that simplifies life's true meaning. We must go with the flow if we ever expect to keep in sync with the world. As John Lennon quotes "Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans". If we don't give time to reflect on our decisions, we are left to lose our perspective and lose what drives us to persevere. Most people experience times of hopelessness, but when you slow down your life you begin to realise that their is a natural order in life that you must expierience the tough times to prepare you for even the tougher times. Its within these tough times that you are reminded not to take for granted the good times in your life.

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GLUTTON FOR PUNISHMENT

It is sad that some people need to be treated badly for them to treat others with respect. Those who need constant reminding not to take peoples generosity for granted easily forget that those who treat them with respect isn't a sign of weakness but a show of strength. This type of behaviour reinforces the saying treat them mean to keep them keen. But not all those who are victims of neglect desire the reminder that their decision to be friendly should come at a cost of losing their integrity. If we don't strive to be good to one another than all that is left is the caveman mentality "ME FIRST" without any regard to anyone else's well being because their only truth is what am I getting out of this. Motives that only suit one person promotes dictatorship this highlights the individuals personality in the first three letters in dictatorship and most people would rather surround themselves with someone who is not a dic. How civil is a civilisation that values only the selfish minded this can never represent our society. That's why our values should focus on what we can do to make others happy and not what do i get out of it.

MOVE WITH THE TIMES

Technology needs to be embraced if you expect to stay in contact with those who choose to use it as their way of socialising. In our fast paced lives we do less connecting with people face to face and more with other forms of media. The evolution of technology forces people to rethink the way they have being interacting and move with the times. Life is ever changing those who refuse to adapt get left behind. This should be enough to steer peoples opinon to the majority, if they expect to fit in and not lose touch with those who are outside of their reach. People dont want to try and understand where we are headed as a society because all they can think about is where they are now. It is up to the individual to pre visualise where they want to be and set path to play which will lead them to reaching their long term goals. Without a plan of what you'd like to achieve in your life you are left with the disappontment that hits you at the point where you cant control the affect that you desire. Leaving you with the realisation that your opportunities have now past you by.

DAY OFF

Your weekend is a reminder that their is more to life than going to work. It is a little taste of what your life could be like if you didn't have the obligation that comes when you take on the responsibilities of an adult. Work can take up ten hrs of your waking life, from the time you get ready till the time you spend at work, is time away from your family life. The time we spend at work and thinking about work can sometimes camouflage the true meaning of why we go to work, for most it's a means to an end to others its a way of life, but the harsh reality to those who rely on work as a hobby is that with age not all jobs are still easy to do. That is why you retire from your working life eventually but you should never retire from your family life. Our bread and butter mentality that strives us to work harder so that we have more money for ourselves and our family's gets taken over by the lack of time left to spend with our loved ones, leaving us with more money but no quality time with the ones we most care about. As we get older our reason for slowing down is reinforced by our lack of stamina due to our deteriorating state of our health, this should be enough to remind us to enjoy our leisure time while we still have a adventurous spirit.

GUILTY AS CHARGED

Guilt is one of the most powerful motivators that influence how people  come to terms with their choices. Once the realisation hits them that their own needs took precedent before anyone Else's with no regard on how it may cause a negative affect, will they then start to feel guilt. We may try and mend the harm our errors have caused, but the lack of taking ownership at the right time doesn't help those we have offended because your actions may have already caused irreversible harm to your own integrity, your selfish actions forces you to repeat your most common mistakes and create a norm that is now expected of you. When your motives have been realised, it's enough to tarnish any relationship you may have because your guilt might not be enough to show  the intensity of your remorse. So come clean from the beginning  and remember if you feel guilty for something you may have done hiding from others is a lot easier than hiding from yourself, for that if you feel bad then you must have done bad. Fooling yourself that you only had good intentions is admitting to yourself that your not comfortable with the lies you say. So accept yourself , even if that acceptance highlights that you are more selfish than you thought you were. At least you would go sleep at night without questioning your true identity.

TO HAVE BUT NOT TO SPEND

Saving money is our personal promise to ourselves that we are trying to reach  a financial goal that will come with the reward of a purchase in the near future. Long term and short term goals are influenced by our greater desire to take ownership of a specific item ,but the commitment to saving money can sometimes tire when you've had a tight guard on spending any money. We all need to invest  some of our well earned money in our short term goals that will help ensure our own happines. If saving is our only goal, what joy can come with having the means to treat yourself but refraining from rewarding yourself. Accumulating a source of funds that are prepared for the rainy day but not used because of the fears of decreasing our funds is defeating the purpose of building a safety net that we never use. Money is only useful if you use it to get you what you want, but if your only pupose for money is to feel safe that you have a lot of it. Then you need to remember that life is short and you cant take your money with you. So work smarter and figure out what you want in life quicker and spend the money you've saved before someone else does.

CONTROLLED CHOICES

Big and small decisions are thrust upon us each day of our lives, but no matter how small the decisions are both choices can remind us of our freedom to be able to choose what is right for us. We are shown by many on how we should think and how we should do even the most trivial of things. No matter the size of the choice we have their is always a voice trying to steer us in a direction to what may have worked for them. This action is pushed to us when we're not following the rules that people put on themselves when making decisions, believing that our life would benefit if we followed their lifestyle choices. Our choices define who we are and those who try to take that away from us have trouble accepting that we know what we want and we also know who we are. If we followed the examples that are forced upon us we would be a replica of the adviser and lose our own identity forcing us to create ideals based on somebodies else's priorities.

ON THE BACK FOOT

People refuse to take responsibility to something they may have shared a role in. They would rather direct your attention to how someone else was the major lead in the play. Without manning up they will never accept that they also added to the problem, this type of thinking puts their mind in a defence mode. Hardly anything heard is taken in and the little that is heard has a barrage of overpowering comebacks waiting to be launched at anyone challenging their sincerity. This shows us that they're mind isn't at peace with their beliefs because they're not relaxed and seem to be prepared for a war even though there is no fight. When you are highly strung and wound up you tend to neglect the facts because your rational mind is ignored which leads your thoughts to confusion. Distracted by the way you feel it is hard to hide your true state of mind when you are feeling angry, because your anger doesn't reflect well if you are trying to connect with people. Most people prefer the company of someone who is at peace with themselves which shows others that they are comfortable in their own skin and also someone who isn't afraid to show a high level of compassion for those that are misfortunate than they are. People search for qualities in their friends that they themselves deem worthy qualities to possess . Without the acknowledgement that they may too be at fault because of their actions then they too will never learn from their mistakes which will lead them to repeating their wrongs. Our tolerance threshold for bad choices can only take so much before the truth comes out and we have a mental breakdown because life hasn't turned out the way we have planned. The truth may hurt but the lies we tell ourselves isn't going to keep us in good company when the realisation hits us that we have been trying to dodge the truth . Our friends and family wont cope with the frustrations our lies may have caused, our only hope is that they will forgive our wrongs. How can anyone forgive someone who refuses to accept responsibility of their part in the lies they may have said ? because you cant forgive someone who shows no remorse.

BAD LISTENER

Most of us have experienced people who respond to quickly to a question to give the right answer. This action can sometimes show an over eagerness to prove their worth and their need to satisfy those they are trying to communicate with. Answering a question that wasn't even asked highlights their inability to listen to the end of the question, almost as if they are on a game show wanting to hurry it all up to get to the winning prize. This usually results with their prediction of the question being far from the intended question. The question transforms to an alternate question which is swayed by what the bad listener believed was asked of them. The listeners state of mind and their own view of  how they are perceived can vary as much as people with optimistic to pessimistic views can. We need to answer each question without the distractions of previous encounters if we are to answer truthfully. Emotions can sway where logic stands firm. That is why you can never argue with logic.

PRECIOUS TIME

Time is the most precious gift anyone can have. What we do with our time is controlled by our priorities. We all are limited by a ticking clock where our bodies will eventually lose the fight to survive. Leaving those we have shared some time with only a memory of what we made them feel while we shared our life experiences. How we a remembered is influenced by the amount of time we have chosen to give to those that will remember us after our passing. Nobody has the knowledge of when they will pass this is what makes time so precious. This is the same reason that we need to focus on what makes us happy and never lose sight of what is real to us. Getting older doesn't seem to be enough to force people to chase their dreams and live their life without regret. It is death of a family member or friend that wakes people up to the reality that we all have to face one day. We need to not  waste our time with the trivial and focus on what motivates us, do we want to expand our family,friends or wallet?. Once we figure that out we then need to spend our time making sure we reach our goals before our time runs out.

LOST IN TRANSLATION

The impact writers words have to their audience doesn't always get the audience the way it was intended to. Words may have similar meanings in the English dictionary but the readers emotions may have swayed their interpretation of the writing. The readers may carry certain biased views in their mind due to the impact of the words that are connected to a feeling or an experience in the readers life. It is hard for some to reflect on the writing without taking a personal view on how the piece might relate to them. Therefore creating a paranoid affect that makes the reader feel as if it is a personal attack on the way they may view the world. Is this an emotional problem or should all writing be a reflection on how it relates to the reader. Why is it that so many people can read the same piece of writing but be left with completely different feelings being stirred. Is this an example of a pessimistic view over an optimistic view. The less stable the mind the more someone will view your writing as personal attack on them forcing the reader to prepp themselves for a counter attack without taking in consideration that the way the mind interprets everyday dilemas is different and what might work for some doesn't always work for another. So the only true solution is to ask the writers intention that way you wont assume the worst unless your a positive thinker who may look deep into the writing and realise that the words were not designed to hurt the reader they were put out as a way the writer could express his or her interpretation of the world.

TO TIRED TO RETIRE

We work most our life to reach a stability of wealth that will help sustain a certain lifestyle. Making a promise to ourselves that eventually we will reach our financial goal and retire from our job to enjoy the remainder of our life utilising the nest egg that we have put aside for the rainy days that may follow. But our commitment changes and so does our promise to the lifestyle we've imagined ourselves in when our financial goals are met. Some people seem to search for another out to the promises they have made leaving them with excuses of why they shouldn't retire yet. For now working no longer is warranted by the struggles that force others to a lifestyle where work time overrides our leisure time. Fear of what they will do with the eight hours of freedom where they can choose how to spend their leisure time is enough reason for them to stick inside the box that tells them how and when to do things because choices are scary when your not sure what to do.

CONTROL FREAKS

Decisions made by you offend those who feel that they should be involved in the elimination process. A process every individual with the freedom of choice goes through when trying  to decipher what is right for them. With every decision made you have two choices, Do i do what i want ? or Do i do what people want me to do. Most logical answers will leave you feeling at piece with yourself and if that means pleasing others over pleasing yourself you will eventually blame those you were trying to please for your misfortunes. When you should be blaming yourself for not taking control of your own life, for that all we have is our ability to choose our path and live the life that makes us happy. Freedom will only come when you stand next to your own beliefs even though you might offend those who disagree with your thoughts.

CHOSEN WORDS

When you speak to people the words you use are clues that help display your current state of mind. The words you use can leave those that surround you with a neutral, negative or positive view of yourself. A lot of people are judged before they open their mouth and speak because of what they look like, the moment they choose to speak your interpretation of them is either matched by your assumption or surprised by your premature views. Words that are carefully chosen are matched with the intent they were meant for, those who spout out anything on the tip of their tongue might miss out on the logical filter of the mind which is sometimes used to camouflage their true intentions. Opening themselves to a side that is usually hidden by the smiles and compliments that help shower their friendly acquaintances. The naked truth no longer hidden by the power that language can help disguise.

ENTRAPMENT IN DISGUISE

In life we are told how great life can be if we upgrade our possessions and how bigger leads us to a happier lifestyle. Cars are built to go faster but the speed limits stay the same. We are told that we should have more then what our parents have because we've had more opportunities and an easier life, but where does this leave those who are content with living a simple life. If possession shape us then are we all shallow minded or are we just following what seems to make sense that more is better. Those who are famous are made to look like super stars by the media and are supposed to be role models to us mere mortals, but if you take away their publicists they would fade in the crowd. Is this entrapment of our feelings or just great marketing. How can we blame those who use our motivations against us knowing that they are only giving us what we crave. Maybe we sometimes need to take off our beer goggles which effect our mind with negative influences and focus more on how we can affect others in a positive way, which would help us reach a common goal worth reaching.

FRIENDSHIP DENIED

It's sad to see that many people miss out on the connection and appreciation that comes with sharing their life story with their audience because they cant see past their frustrations. Their fears restricting their heart to open to the difference of others opinions, leaving them with only one option to treat others as enemy's of their own beliefs whether they agree with the current discussion or not. It's too hard to see beyond their prejudices especially when they have already made their mind up. Their perspective now blocked by  the unforgiving sunlight of debate, now afraid to enjoy the rays of light beyond their assumptions. Every opportunity taken to stamp in their own version of the truth, removing their ability to listen and trading it for conflict. Their imagination running off with the logic they normally held proud because lateral thinking can not remain open if your mind is closed.

EASY TO PREACH HARD TO SWALLOW

It's so easy to give advice , but it seems to be very hard for some to follow through with their own advice. Why cant those who criticise others use their same cynical views when it comes to making decisions that effect their own lifestyle. Is it because when there not involved with the affects that come with making a rushed decision at the drop of a hat, that everything seems so easy to comprehend. But when their plate is full with an in balance of  tasks over time, the problems they face seem to out weigh anyone else problems. Others related views carry no weight when those who deem their issues more important then every bodies else dilemmas. How you open your heart will leave a reflective outcome.

PAST STRENGTHS TODAYS WEAKNESS

In the past the stronger you were the more people you ruled over, the people who challenged your command would suffer dire consequences. Our current time we a ruled by who is smartest and brain power leads over brutal strength. A civilised world where lawyers are more involved and physical violence is considered unorthodox unless it is controlled by an umpire there to judge what is a clean fight over one that isn't. Money still controls which way people's views sway but how we earn our money is legally limited by the laws in government. The cave man times are now under the table where the lime light is dimmed by corruption and where majority influences can not see the wrong that use to be out in the open with total disregard of society's views. We now have to look harder and find proof to prove that equality is suffering under the false protection of our laws.

TRUTH HIDDEN BEHIND THE LIES

Truth is what you see when someone doesn't have time to prepare for a diplomatic answer. Shock is the response you get when people try to hide their true response with a delayed answer. The truth that is normally hidden in the preparation of a logical answer, which allows the liar optimum time to choose an answer that will camouflage the real truth. The reaction on their face and their body language helps guide you in the right direction by deciphering their real feelings. Their body language can't lie to the questions you ask them, which helps you work out who will be honest and open their heart or who will tell you what ever lie makes them sound wiser.

MY DREAMS NOT YOURS

We are constantly reminded of how we should be living our life and what we are doing is wrong. It seems that if we choose to make different decisions  to what is expected of us then we're off life's tracks. But how can you explain to those who push us rather than guide us with their non biased advice, that we are knowingly choosing to live our life different to others because it's what we want. Our decisions aren't made to get back at someone for a wrong they may have done to us but because we felt that the decision will bust us out of the enclosure that traps and limits our mind in a bubble of dissatisfaction. We know what we want and we want the freedom that comes with it.