CONTROLLED CHOICES

Big and small decisions are thrust upon us each day of our lives, but no matter how small the decisions are both choices can remind us of our freedom to be able to choose what is right for us. We are shown by many on how we should think and how we should do even the most trivial of things. No matter the size of the choice we have their is always a voice trying to steer us in a direction to what may have worked for them. This action is pushed to us when we're not following the rules that people put on themselves when making decisions, believing that our life would benefit if we followed their lifestyle choices. Our choices define who we are and those who try to take that away from us have trouble accepting that we know what we want and we also know who we are. If we followed the examples that are forced upon us we would be a replica of the adviser and lose our own identity forcing us to create ideals based on somebodies else's priorities.

ON THE BACK FOOT

People refuse to take responsibility to something they may have shared a role in. They would rather direct your attention to how someone else was the major lead in the play. Without manning up they will never accept that they also added to the problem, this type of thinking puts their mind in a defence mode. Hardly anything heard is taken in and the little that is heard has a barrage of overpowering comebacks waiting to be launched at anyone challenging their sincerity. This shows us that they're mind isn't at peace with their beliefs because they're not relaxed and seem to be prepared for a war even though there is no fight. When you are highly strung and wound up you tend to neglect the facts because your rational mind is ignored which leads your thoughts to confusion. Distracted by the way you feel it is hard to hide your true state of mind when you are feeling angry, because your anger doesn't reflect well if you are trying to connect with people. Most people prefer the company of someone who is at peace with themselves which shows others that they are comfortable in their own skin and also someone who isn't afraid to show a high level of compassion for those that are misfortunate than they are. People search for qualities in their friends that they themselves deem worthy qualities to possess . Without the acknowledgement that they may too be at fault because of their actions then they too will never learn from their mistakes which will lead them to repeating their wrongs. Our tolerance threshold for bad choices can only take so much before the truth comes out and we have a mental breakdown because life hasn't turned out the way we have planned. The truth may hurt but the lies we tell ourselves isn't going to keep us in good company when the realisation hits us that we have been trying to dodge the truth . Our friends and family wont cope with the frustrations our lies may have caused, our only hope is that they will forgive our wrongs. How can anyone forgive someone who refuses to accept responsibility of their part in the lies they may have said ? because you cant forgive someone who shows no remorse.

BAD LISTENER

Most of us have experienced people who respond to quickly to a question to give the right answer. This action can sometimes show an over eagerness to prove their worth and their need to satisfy those they are trying to communicate with. Answering a question that wasn't even asked highlights their inability to listen to the end of the question, almost as if they are on a game show wanting to hurry it all up to get to the winning prize. This usually results with their prediction of the question being far from the intended question. The question transforms to an alternate question which is swayed by what the bad listener believed was asked of them. The listeners state of mind and their own view of  how they are perceived can vary as much as people with optimistic to pessimistic views can. We need to answer each question without the distractions of previous encounters if we are to answer truthfully. Emotions can sway where logic stands firm. That is why you can never argue with logic.

PRECIOUS TIME

Time is the most precious gift anyone can have. What we do with our time is controlled by our priorities. We all are limited by a ticking clock where our bodies will eventually lose the fight to survive. Leaving those we have shared some time with only a memory of what we made them feel while we shared our life experiences. How we a remembered is influenced by the amount of time we have chosen to give to those that will remember us after our passing. Nobody has the knowledge of when they will pass this is what makes time so precious. This is the same reason that we need to focus on what makes us happy and never lose sight of what is real to us. Getting older doesn't seem to be enough to force people to chase their dreams and live their life without regret. It is death of a family member or friend that wakes people up to the reality that we all have to face one day. We need to not  waste our time with the trivial and focus on what motivates us, do we want to expand our family,friends or wallet?. Once we figure that out we then need to spend our time making sure we reach our goals before our time runs out.

LOST IN TRANSLATION

The impact writers words have to their audience doesn't always get the audience the way it was intended to. Words may have similar meanings in the English dictionary but the readers emotions may have swayed their interpretation of the writing. The readers may carry certain biased views in their mind due to the impact of the words that are connected to a feeling or an experience in the readers life. It is hard for some to reflect on the writing without taking a personal view on how the piece might relate to them. Therefore creating a paranoid affect that makes the reader feel as if it is a personal attack on the way they may view the world. Is this an emotional problem or should all writing be a reflection on how it relates to the reader. Why is it that so many people can read the same piece of writing but be left with completely different feelings being stirred. Is this an example of a pessimistic view over an optimistic view. The less stable the mind the more someone will view your writing as personal attack on them forcing the reader to prepp themselves for a counter attack without taking in consideration that the way the mind interprets everyday dilemas is different and what might work for some doesn't always work for another. So the only true solution is to ask the writers intention that way you wont assume the worst unless your a positive thinker who may look deep into the writing and realise that the words were not designed to hurt the reader they were put out as a way the writer could express his or her interpretation of the world.

TO TIRED TO RETIRE

We work most our life to reach a stability of wealth that will help sustain a certain lifestyle. Making a promise to ourselves that eventually we will reach our financial goal and retire from our job to enjoy the remainder of our life utilising the nest egg that we have put aside for the rainy days that may follow. But our commitment changes and so does our promise to the lifestyle we've imagined ourselves in when our financial goals are met. Some people seem to search for another out to the promises they have made leaving them with excuses of why they shouldn't retire yet. For now working no longer is warranted by the struggles that force others to a lifestyle where work time overrides our leisure time. Fear of what they will do with the eight hours of freedom where they can choose how to spend their leisure time is enough reason for them to stick inside the box that tells them how and when to do things because choices are scary when your not sure what to do.

CONTROL FREAKS

Decisions made by you offend those who feel that they should be involved in the elimination process. A process every individual with the freedom of choice goes through when trying  to decipher what is right for them. With every decision made you have two choices, Do i do what i want ? or Do i do what people want me to do. Most logical answers will leave you feeling at piece with yourself and if that means pleasing others over pleasing yourself you will eventually blame those you were trying to please for your misfortunes. When you should be blaming yourself for not taking control of your own life, for that all we have is our ability to choose our path and live the life that makes us happy. Freedom will only come when you stand next to your own beliefs even though you might offend those who disagree with your thoughts.